Tuesday, 30 September 2014

Loving Ourselves: Looks

I'm sure that lots of us are guilty of NOT loving ourselves enough.

I definitely think that I sometimes forget to look after no.1!

Just this week I was wondering if I should go blonde. I'm not pretty enough. Will nice blonde hair make me look better? I hate wearing my glasses - would blonde hair improve that?

I googled famous people who are naturally dark but have gone blonde for ideas. I am pretty dark and that would obviously be an issue - with the amount of time and money it would take to get to the shade I like, very dark roots to keep up with, etc.

Then I realised that my hair colour is really not the issue. I like my brown hair and it's in very good condition - there is nothing wrong with it just how it is... I was just picking on myself unnecessarily!

Aren't we all guilty of doing that sometimes? I look back at photos from last Christmas and think "crap - why did I wear that jumper? It makes me look bigger than I am..."

I'm embarrassed to admit that one as it makes me sound ridiculous. But I think most of us ladies do it at some point!

So how do we learn to love ourselves instead?

I guess this is all learnt behaviour - looking in the mirror and wishing a few things were different - instead of admiring the things that you like about yourself.

Surely we weren't born with an instinct to slag ourselves off - we must have picked it up somewhere along the line.

It could be because of the endless photos of perfect girls in magazines. With perfect style, lovely clothes, a flawless face and perfect body/hair. Of course this isn't how most of them really look on a day-to-day basis...

Or maybe it was pressure from other girls at school? Being a teenage girl can be tough - some girls are true mean girls, and secondary school can quite frankly leave us comparing ourselves to the over-confident "pretty" girls. Were they really any prettier than us? In most cases, no.

They may have had nicer clothes, but we can buy nicer clothes. They may have had better make up, but we can buy nicer make up. 

I really think that if you're very confident in yourself, others will believe that you are as fabulous as you make out.

Which shows that we should all have a little more confidence in our looks, or our decisions, or our beliefs (or our blogs!!)... and tell ourselves that we are doing very well, instead of wishing we had a different wardrobe to "make us look better".

We should look in the mirror and think about what we like about ourselves. It doesn't mean you have to turn into some loud over-confident person who puts others down...just look after number one. 

For example, my hair looks really nice today, I'm happy with it...

Oops - does that make me sound big-headed? 

We've been taught that it's not good to compliment ourselves. Time to change that right now! 

What's your favourite thing about your looks?
Eyes? Hair? Make up? Smile?...


  1. I really enjoyed reading this, it makes me so sad how hard us ladies are on ourselves :( I suffered really badly with my self esteem a few years ago to the point where I didn't want to even look in the mirror. A couple of things that really helped me were whenever someone paid me a compliment I started to just say thank you and smile and really take that compliment on board rather than putting myself down with my reply like I always used to, and also if I was ever thinking something negative about myself then I would make myself think of and list off five positive things about myself :)
    Love Holly xx


    1. Thanks for your comment, it's a great idea to think of five positive things about yourself. Well done for accepting compliments :) xx

  2. you're right on point(s) here! I think above all else, we should love ourselves more, and everything else will fall into place :)

    1. Thank you :) I agree, it can be easier said than done but we should all try harder to look after ourselves. xx

  3. I agree with you completely and think it's such a shame we can be so hard on ourselves :(
    Excellent post! x


    1. Thanks so much :) It is a shame, hopefully we can all learn to be a little bit kinder to ourselves in future! xx

  4. It is a shame that so many women are so hard on themselves because of their looks. I think we should all take some time to love ourselves and our looks more - but it is easier said than done!

    Emma | frillsanddoodads.com

    1. I agree that its easier said than done. We need to try and put ourselves first though - no more picking on ourselves! :) xx

  5. I have so much love for this post and all that is represents. Thank you for sharing this, I wish more woman would stop striving for perfection and instead strive for inner happiness within their own body. Everyone is different and that is what makes everyone so beautiful. As for me, I like my bum, it's big and round, just the way I like it!



    1. Thank you, I'm glad you liked it! I totally agree. Inner happiness is so important xx

  6. I love this.
    I think it actually does us good to be a little big headed at times. That's why I am a fan of the selfie, it shows you're feeling good about yourself that day and that's great!!

    We should compliment each other more.
    I'll start now -this was a really great post :)


    1. Aww thank you! I agree a selfie is always good, it's one of the few times where you think (and admit to yourself) that you look nice! :) xx